How do you know about a man?

Do you sometimes wish that men could just be moreHONEST with you?Do you feel discouraged by dating because the menyou meet actually LIE about what they want fromdating, what their background is, what they do fora living and sometimes even lie about whether ornot they're AVAILABLE?To where sometimes you end up involved with a manwho is already seriously dating another woman, orworse - is married?Not good.If these are situations that you run into a littlemore than you'd like, then keep reading because inthis e-mail I'm about to reveal the "MAGICATTITUDE" that actually inspires a man to becompletely up front and honest with you about suchthings as:-- If he's looking for something serious or casual-- If he's seeing other people -- If you're thekind of woman he's drawn to -- If he's ready to"settle down" or notAs a matter of fact, with this magic attitude, youmay be able to get a man to reveal a lot more thanhe would ever reveal on his own, withoutprompting, and the ADDED BENEFIT of this is thathe will feel more "connected" with you becausehe'll feel he can tell you just about ANYTHING.He'll feel more attracted to you because he'llfeel more understood and appreciated by you.This is why I call this attitude "magic." It notonly inspires honesty from a man, it makes him feelmore connected to you at the same time.Nice.If you're single and dating right now, thismindset or attitude can actually help you qualifythe right man and avoid Mr. Wrong as early in thedating process as possible, perhaps even before youmeet in person for the first time (if you'reonline dating).And if you're in a relationship, it can help youget to the bottom of what he's thinking andfeeling, so you can know why he's withdrawing, ifhe's open to taking things to the "next level," orwhat's holding him back from fully committing toyou.But first, there's a fundamental question thatseems to bother a lot of women.Why does this even have to be an issue, anyway?Why can't a guy just be up-front and honest withyou?Why, for example, is it so hard for a man to tellyou why he's not calling as often or why hestopped asking you out, especially when he seemedso "into you" in the beginning?You go out on a few dates with a guy, and youthink everything is going great.then he stopscalling. He doesn't respond to your emails ortexts. It's like he's dropped off the face of theearth and YOU DON'T KNOW WHY.It's not that you are so particularly"heartbroken" about this. Maybe you even realizedthat he was a nice enough guy, but you didn't knowhim well enough yet to fall in love or anything.But still.you wish you could at least hear WHY hestopped calling, stopped asking you out, stoppedresponding to your messages.You just wish he could be HONEST with you.It's no big deal - you can handle it. Right?Hmmm.perhaps, but that's not how HE may be seeingthings.WHY MEN WILL LIE TO YOUImagine this scenario:You're on a first or second date with a man andit's going really well.You're laughing, you're having a greatconversation and you seem to have a lot incommon, it's almost scary how similar yourattitudes are about certain things.You feel an intense "chemistry" between you. He'sstaring at you with that "look" that tells you heis very attracted to you.He even talks about places he'd like to take youto someday.You are almost positive that this is the beginningof something meaningful with this guy.But a day or two goes by after the date and youdon't hear from him. Then a week, then two weeks.You send him a message, "Haven't heard from you ina while. How are you?"But he doesn't respond. You never hear from himagain. You beat yourself up, analyzing everythingyou did and said on the dates to see if maybe youaccidentally put him off.Months later, you find out the truth from someoneelse. During the time he was dating you, he wasalso dating another woman, and was now gettingmore "serious" with her.You feel confused and disappointed, and a bitannoyed that he didn't just tell you the TRUTHabout what was going on.Why didn't he tell you the truth - either before,during or after he went on a date with you?The truth would have been a whole lot better thandays or weeks WONDERING and beating yourself upover nothing. Right? Of course it would.So why does a man lie to you? Why does he avoidtelling you the truth about a situation?The answer is simple.A man will lie to you because he hatesconfrontation.He FEARS your emotional response. He fears yourrejection of him. He fears that HE won't be ableto "handle" your response.He's imagining that you're going to cry, scream,be disappointed, argue, or complain. He fearsbeing put on the spot or "attacked."Understand - I'm not saying you would do any ofthose things.I'm just telling you what that guy - who maybedoesn't know you all that well yet - is thinking.You may be a cool cucumber. Totally able tomaturely handle whatever he tells you.It doesn't matter - somewhere in his past, therewas a woman or two who did in fact overwhelm himwith her emotional response, and it FREAKED himout.He could have just said, "Hey, I am dating anotherwoman right now, and I've decided that I want toget to know her better. I think you're great, butI also feel that I want to give this othersituation a chance."Instead, he tells you NOTHING--he avoids you,stops calling, and hopes that he won't ever haveto face your criticism and judgment.It's not a particularly mature and consideratething to do, but that's the reality of how it iswith a lot of men. Not all, but definitely a lot.They don't even realize in the moment how YOU'REfeeling.all they know is that they have to do whatthey must do to avoid that confrontation theyfear.Despite this, there's reason to be hopeful thatyou can create the space for a man to be honestwith you with really no effort.And here's something else you need to know.there'sa "window of opportunity" for getting the mosthonesty right away, so you can screen out the menwho are Mr. Wrong from the start.Be sure to know when that window is open for you,and take advantage of it.WHY FIRST AND SECOND DATES ARE CRITICAL TIMES FORHONESTYThis is an interesting fact: a man will be MOSTHONEST with you when he is NOT YET emotionallyengaged or invested in your relationship yet.In other words, you can probably learn a LOT abouta man on a first or second date, when you're justgetting to know each other.This is a time when he's not so afraid to share,because he's not afraid of disappointing you(since you don't know each other well enough yet).This is when you should be listening VERY closelyto what man tells you.This is when he'll tell you things like, "I'm justlooking for something casual and fun right now. Ijust got out of a long-term relationship and notinto getting into the same situation anytimesoon."Or he might laugh and say, "I'm a lifetimebachelor. Settling down doesn't interest me in theleast."Or, he might reveal some other dark secret, "My exwas an unhappy woman. Always complaining about onething or another about me."And that's when you need to HEAR what he's saying.And take him seriously. Know what you're in for.The man you choose is the man you get.THE ATTITUDE & THE THREE MAGIC WORDS THAT INSPIREHONESTYWhen you want to inspire honesty in a man, so thatyou let him know that he is "safe" when he shareswith you, you have to have what I call the"Anything is OK" attitude.Now, this doesn't mean that anything is OK for aman to do, and that you're supposed to acceptanything he does and have no boundaries orlimitations.The attitude is more like you thinking, "Anythingis OK for you to share with me, but I know what Iwill and will not tolerate in my life, and what Iwant. But you can TELL ME anything. I can handleit."How do you communicate this attitude?Easy.With the three little words: "I'm just curious."It can go like this."Are you seeing anyone right now? I'm justcurious?""What kind of relationship are you looking for?I'm just curious.""What kind of woman do you most admire? I'm justcurious.""Where do you see yourself in the next five years?I'm just curious."Using these three words not only lets a man knowthat you'll be OK with whatever he tells you, butthat you're not needy or too aggressive, and hecan feel safe telling you just about anything.Just don't stare at him, holding your breath,waiting for his answer. That defeats the purpose -BIG TIME.Here's the deal.It's not that a man is afraid ofcertain questions. It's just that the WAY a womanasks those questions makes him feel strange.If a woman warns, "You're not seeing anyone elseright now, are you?" It almost automaticallyinvites DISHONESTY in a man.If you want to inspire sincerity in a man, youmust have the "Anything is OK" attitude and usethose 3 magic words to get the most honestresponse possible.That way, you won't waste a lot of time going ondates with "unavailable" men, men who haveskeletons in their closet, aren't over their ex,or are actually interested in a different kind ofrelationship than you are.Wouldn't you benefit from knowing exactly how to use the "anything is OK" attitude to screen out the right man from all the wrong ones? How to know if the man you're with now is really being honestwith you about where the relationship is headed?Or if he's lying?In my CD/DVD program, "Meeting The One," I explainhow to use the Anything is OK Attitude to maximizeyour success in dating and relationships.You'll learn how to screen for potential jerks byknowing what to do and say even BEFORE you agreeto meet on a first date.And in this program, I'll teach you what to do andsay to create amazing chemistry with the RIGHT MANand how to constantly be increasing the level ofATTRACTION between you. You'll learn:-- How certain phrases you speak can be a DEAL-BREAKER for a man when he hears it the first fewtimes he dates you.and how to avoid these at allcosts-- How to make a man see your VALUE by the thingsyou say or not, so that he will believe your"status" to be high and therefore will benaturally attracted to you-- How to make a man feel ATTRACTION from thefirst five minutes all the way through the firstfive dates using specific "counterintuitive"actions-- The secret to drawing a "non-committal" mancloser to you by making yourself a "challenge" in his eyes.
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