Get Him Addicted to You

NOTE: What's your biggest frustration with men,relationships and dating?Do you find it easy to meet men, but hard to keeptheir attention and interest as soon as thingsstart to get "serious"?Are you wondering how to approach your boyfriendabout commitment, because you've been together along time now and HE isn't bringing it up on hisown?Are you worried that the man you're with willcheat on you?I actually put together a list "Top 10" questionsthat I most commonly get from women like you, whoare wondering how to get past certain "bumps" inthe road when it comes to their love lives.

I've got a fascinating story for you. Tell me if it sounds familiar... You're hanging out talking with some friends,when all of a sudden the conversation turns to acommon topic - love and relationships. And each woman at the table starts talkingabout the situation she's in and all the amazingthings about it. At first you're enjoying the stories and you'rehappy for your friends. But then it hits you... You are the only person there who ISN'T in anongoing positive relationship. Everyone else at the table has someone in theirlife who they're excited and optimistic about. Everyone else has something "real." Everyone except you. You're ALONE... and that guy who you "date",without the relationship going anywhere, well - hedoesn't cut it. So you stop for a second and think, "Maybe it's me..." "Maybe it's not all because of the way men are,but how I am. That explains why I don't have reallove in my life." As you think about this for a second, you can'thelp but feel a little lonely all of a sudden, anda small twinge of sadness wells up inside. But as these feelings start to grow, you knowinside that you deserve better, and you wish thefeeling would just go away. But it doesn't... and the last thing you wantto do is "go there" in front of your friends. Especially since they just got through tellingall of their great stories. You don't want them to know how you really feelright now... and you wish this feeling and problemwould just go away. You think to yourself: "Why does love and a relationship with a manhave to be so difficult?" "If only men weren't so difficult to be with." But then your "protective" side kicks in, andyou start fighting these feelings and tellyourself: "I don't need a man." "I'm happy with my life as it is." "I'm happy to be single and focus on myselfright now, instead of wasting my time and energyin a dead-end situation with a man." "Men are all screwed up and trouble anyway, andI don't need that in my life right now." Ahhhh... it starts to work and you calm downand regain your "cool." But somewhere deep down inside, you know whyyou felt sad - Seeing all your friends happy in their lovelives reminded you of something... For all the reasons you have to be happy, andall the ways you can convince other people (andyourself) that you're fulfilled, you REALLY DOwant something much, much better. You want a REAL CONNECTION. You want to share REAL LOVE and BE LOVED. And you wonder how long you can avoid thereality that these things are MISSING from yourlife by staying busy and taking care of otherareas of life. You know you can't go on this way forever. Something has to change. There HAS to be something better out there foryou. Or else what's it all for? But then you remember... It's been months, maybe even years, sinceyou've actually made the time and space in yourlife to meet and connect with the kind of man whocould bring great things back into your love life. And in fact, the idea of "dating" sounds like acomplete and utter NIGHTMARE. Sitting through a date listening to some bozo,who has no idea how to really connect with you,ramble on about himself, would just make you feeleven more hopeless and alone. So you've basically shut out of your life theidea of dating and going out with men for morethan friendship. But then how are you supposed to meet andconnect with a great guy? And how did EVERYONE ELSE around you manage tobecome CLOSE and COMMITTED with a good guy, whileyou're having an impossible time finding a guy whoisn't totally clueless? Do they know something you don't? Are you just UNLUCKY in love... and not meantto have a great relationship for yourself? Are they somehow more attractive than you are? Why does it have to be so difficult? And why does it have to be such a "game"?***End of story** Ok, I know I got a little "heavy" on you there,but it's for your own good. This story is basically a myth... a collectionof common situations, fears, beliefs, etc., thatwomen experience. And in case you didn't notice, a lot of whatwas going on here in the story had to do with awoman's own limiting thoughts, frustrations andnegative beliefs about men, dating andrelationships. If you identified with a few of these thoughts,fears, etc., then I want you to recognizesomething... Some women have VERY FEW of these negative andlimiting thoughts. While other women have TONS. I'm talking 10, 20, 30 and 50 times a day here. And what do you think that does for a woman? Or for you? Let's try something new today - an exercise. Take a second and imagine something for me... Picture in your mind a woman you know who'seither single or in a "troubled" relationship. Make sure you have a clear picture of her inyour mind. Now I want you to imagine her having negativethoughts and fears like the ones we've beentalking about here. In fact, I also want you to give her some ofthe fears and negative thoughts that you have. And now... concentrate on how these thoughtsmake her FEEL and ACT. See how they affect her emotions, her attitudeand even her body language. I'll give you a second to picture this clearlyin your mind... Ok, now imagine a situation comes up for heruncertain situation with the man in her life. Picture her emotions, her thoughts and how shecommunicates to the man in her life in your head. I'll give you a second to think about this andimagine it happening in your mind. ... ... I'll give you another minute. Ok, come on back. Now, I want you answer a question for me - How did all of her negative thoughts affect howshe interacted with her guy? Did they help guide her to positive andconstructive communication that brought themCLOSER together? Or did it tend to make communication with himMORE DIFFICULT and create DISTANCE? I'm sure you came up with all kinds offascinating insights and realizations, but here'swhat I want you to see here... Communicating from a place of fear andinsecurity with a man will more often createDISTANCE than it will bring you and him together. Unless the guy you're with is ALREADY an expertat communicating and dealing with these thingshimself. If only men were experts when it came to havingopen, lasting relationships and communicating inways that would bring you closer, right? Wouldn't that be nice. Well, the truth is men are RARELY experts inthese areas. And sure... a man COULD come along and be sucha wonderful and amazing guy that he would helpmake relationships and communicating easier. But if that doesn't happen, or the great guyyou do find doesn't happen to have these naturalskills and abilities (and by the way, most mendon't)... Then guess what? It's up to YOU. He's not going to make it work FOR YOU. In fact, the reality is that as you are firstbecoming close with a man, he's more likely totrigger your own fears than to help resolve them. I'm not telling you about this right now justbecause I'm trying to teach you some "mumbo jumbo"about how thoughts, energy and intention worktogether... (Which they do.) But for another simple reason - There's something you can do right now toDRAMATICALLY improve the level of connection andintimacy you have in your love life. It all starts in one place. Paying attention to HOW YOU THINK. On a basic level, your own patterns of THINKINGand FEELING lead to the ACTIONS you take and theBEHAVIOR you display. And guess what can create a "negative filter"on your THINKING and FEELINGS? FEAR. And if you're finding that your actions andbehaviors aren't "naturally" attracting good menand creating healthy long-term relationships...then you've got something to look at right now - Your own thoughts and emotions, and your ownfears. And, of course, you could worry about HISISSUES too, but let's save working on him forlater when you're up to speed on all this foryourself.GETTING PAST FEAR, "CONNECTING" ON A DEEP LEVEL,AND MAKING MEN ADDICTED TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP... Ok, let's get to some real ANSWERS here. What do you DO when you have negative, fearful,limiting thoughts and situations going on in yourmind that are affecting your love life? Well, I'm not going to tell you that all womenwho are single or in "dead-end" relationships arein that place in their life JUST BECAUSE theythink and feel in "fear-based" and "self-limiting"ways. But do the math. What kind of women do you think men "naturally"gravitate towards? What kind of women do you think men"instinctively" feel good when they're around,even if they don't know why? What kind of women do you think men understand,on a subconscious level and make great long-termpartners? Right again. Women who are in CONTROL of their own fears andemotions when it comes to men, dating andrelationships. Why? It's NOT because feelings and emotions arethemselves bad... Feelings and emotions are probably the mostbeautiful part of what makes us human and allowsus to experience the world in a deep andmeaningful way. But, what I'm talking about here is NEGATIVEfeelings. Because negative feelings, more often than not,lead to NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES. And women who are in CONTROL of their EMOTIONALEXPERIENCES and who have a handle on their ownemotional state, know how to do something thatother women can't and will never be able tofake... They know how to consistently create morePOSITIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES with men. On one level, it really is that simple. In practice, it's much harder.

So let's get on now to ATTRACTION. The truth is that men are attracted to onewoman and not another largely because of the waythat one woman makes them FEEL. And NOT because of what logically soundqualities each person and the relationship has. ATTRACTION and CONNECTION have their own"logic." I'll say it again so you can really hear itthis time - A man is attracted to a woman and wants to bewith her, and only her, because of the way heFEELS when he's around her. And not for any other reason. Not even if the women is the most loving,caring, sweet, generous, and intelligent woman inthe world. I'm even going to "translate" this for you soyou're sure to start seeing it more clearly - Translation: The emotional experiences that aman has when he's around a woman are the singlemost powerful reasons why he either wants a long-term relationship, or doesn't. And to make this even more clear, let me tellyou what this DOESN'T mean... It DOESN'T mean that a man wants to be with awoman because he VALUES a relationship and havingtrue love in his life. Or that a woman can be so good to a man and doso many loving and generous things for him that herecognizes the LOGICAL value of staying with herand makes the "right" decision. Feelings and emotions have their own logic,which has NOTHING to do with what makes "sense" orwhat is "fair." And the sooner you accept this as true aboutmen, the easier EVERYTHING in your love life andrelationship will become.CREATING A DEEP LEVEL OF "EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION"THAT WILL LEAD TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP So how do you make a man FEEL when he's aroundyou? What are the conscious and subconsciousemotional reactions and responses he's likely tobe having with you, based on your emotions andyour behavior? Take a minute and think about it. ... ... Here's the bottom line: A woman who can communicate to a man on adeeper level that she's AWARE and IN CONTROL ofher own experience and "emotional" state will makea man feel INTENSE ATTRACTION for her on that sameemotional level. She's an "emotionally attractive" woman, whichcan tell a man all kinds of things about herBEYOND the PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and interest hemight have. On the other hand... Women who DON'T have a handle on these thingshave quite a different effect on men - These women can still usually make men feelPHYSICAL ATTRACTION... but they often set off allkinds of conscious and subconscious "warningsigns" in a man's mind. Signals that then become FEELINGS and EMOTIONSinside the man that tell him to RUN. And under no circumstance commit himself andattach his emotional experience to hers. Here's the strangest part about women who sendoff these "warning signals" to men... Most women do this largely BY ACCIDENT. That's right. Lots of women actually triggernegative responses inside a man's mind while doingthings they think are FOR THE GOOD of therelationship. How's that for COUNTERPRODUCTIVE? And hey... I know it might bother you to hearsome of what I'm saying. And that you probablyhave been more caring and generous with yourthoughts and emotions in your past situations withmen than they were with you. I get that. But someone needs to tell you how men reallyand truly think when it comes to women andrelationships. And of course men have their own specializedset of "baggage" and fears too. But let me ask you... What do you know, FROM EXPERIENCE, will happenif a man doesn't deal with his own fears aboutwomen and relationships? DISASTER. I'm talking withdrawal, break-ups, cheating,lying, etc. The list goes on. But if a guy takes the time and develops the"emotional maturity" to think about the negativeand limiting fears HE HAS about women andrelationships... And finds a healthy level of AWARENESS andCONTROL around these... Then this is the kind of guy that women will"naturally" be drawn to and enjoy being with. Your first step to creating a situation with aman where you BOTH feel the level of connectionthat will create and support a lastingrelationship is to accept that MEN DON'T MAKESENSE. Why? Because remember, our EMOTIONS don't follow alogical or "rational" path. If you're interested in learning more aboutwhat I call "Emotional Attraction" - which is thekind of attraction and desire in a man that goesBEYOND PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, then I'd suggest yougo check out my "Natural & Lasting Attraction"CD/DVD program. This program is the world's first completeguide and reference on how to create both thatinitial "connection" and LASTING LONG-TERMATTRACTION... While showing you how to deal with all of thecommon relationship-ending obstacles you'll runinto with men, and within yourself, along the way. Inside this 7-hour program, I cover everythingfrom the psychological foundations of how and whya man becomes connected and attracted to a womanfor a lasting relationship... To exactly what to do in the frustratingsituation where you start getting closer and moreconnected with a man, but then he starts towithdraw and act MORE DISTANT as time goes on. By the way, the material in this program is allNEW MATERIAL that wasn't covered in my eBook, ifyou've already read it. But let me ask you... Wouldn't it be great to know the specificemotional and verbal "strategies" of women whoseem to effortlessly and "naturally" attract men?

How do you know about a man?

Do you sometimes wish that men could just be moreHONEST with you?Do you feel discouraged by dating because the menyou meet actually LIE about what they want fromdating, what their background is, what they do fora living and sometimes even lie about whether ornot they're AVAILABLE?To where sometimes you end up involved with a manwho is already seriously dating another woman, orworse - is married?Not good.If these are situations that you run into a littlemore than you'd like, then keep reading because inthis e-mail I'm about to reveal the "MAGICATTITUDE" that actually inspires a man to becompletely up front and honest with you about suchthings as:-- If he's looking for something serious or casual-- If he's seeing other people -- If you're thekind of woman he's drawn to -- If he's ready to"settle down" or notAs a matter of fact, with this magic attitude, youmay be able to get a man to reveal a lot more thanhe would ever reveal on his own, withoutprompting, and the ADDED BENEFIT of this is thathe will feel more "connected" with you becausehe'll feel he can tell you just about ANYTHING.He'll feel more attracted to you because he'llfeel more understood and appreciated by you.This is why I call this attitude "magic." It notonly inspires honesty from a man, it makes him feelmore connected to you at the same time.Nice.If you're single and dating right now, thismindset or attitude can actually help you qualifythe right man and avoid Mr. Wrong as early in thedating process as possible, perhaps even before youmeet in person for the first time (if you'reonline dating).And if you're in a relationship, it can help youget to the bottom of what he's thinking andfeeling, so you can know why he's withdrawing, ifhe's open to taking things to the "next level," orwhat's holding him back from fully committing toyou.But first, there's a fundamental question thatseems to bother a lot of women.Why does this even have to be an issue, anyway?Why can't a guy just be up-front and honest withyou?Why, for example, is it so hard for a man to tellyou why he's not calling as often or why hestopped asking you out, especially when he seemedso "into you" in the beginning?You go out on a few dates with a guy, and youthink everything is going great.then he stopscalling. He doesn't respond to your emails ortexts. It's like he's dropped off the face of theearth and YOU DON'T KNOW WHY.It's not that you are so particularly"heartbroken" about this. Maybe you even realizedthat he was a nice enough guy, but you didn't knowhim well enough yet to fall in love or anything.But still.you wish you could at least hear WHY hestopped calling, stopped asking you out, stoppedresponding to your messages.You just wish he could be HONEST with you.It's no big deal - you can handle it. Right?Hmmm.perhaps, but that's not how HE may be seeingthings.WHY MEN WILL LIE TO YOUImagine this scenario:You're on a first or second date with a man andit's going really well.You're laughing, you're having a greatconversation and you seem to have a lot incommon, it's almost scary how similar yourattitudes are about certain things.You feel an intense "chemistry" between you. He'sstaring at you with that "look" that tells you heis very attracted to you.He even talks about places he'd like to take youto someday.You are almost positive that this is the beginningof something meaningful with this guy.But a day or two goes by after the date and youdon't hear from him. Then a week, then two weeks.You send him a message, "Haven't heard from you ina while. How are you?"But he doesn't respond. You never hear from himagain. You beat yourself up, analyzing everythingyou did and said on the dates to see if maybe youaccidentally put him off.Months later, you find out the truth from someoneelse. During the time he was dating you, he wasalso dating another woman, and was now gettingmore "serious" with her.You feel confused and disappointed, and a bitannoyed that he didn't just tell you the TRUTHabout what was going on.Why didn't he tell you the truth - either before,during or after he went on a date with you?The truth would have been a whole lot better thandays or weeks WONDERING and beating yourself upover nothing. Right? Of course it would.So why does a man lie to you? Why does he avoidtelling you the truth about a situation?The answer is simple.A man will lie to you because he hatesconfrontation.He FEARS your emotional response. He fears yourrejection of him. He fears that HE won't be ableto "handle" your response.He's imagining that you're going to cry, scream,be disappointed, argue, or complain. He fearsbeing put on the spot or "attacked."Understand - I'm not saying you would do any ofthose things.I'm just telling you what that guy - who maybedoesn't know you all that well yet - is thinking.You may be a cool cucumber. Totally able tomaturely handle whatever he tells you.It doesn't matter - somewhere in his past, therewas a woman or two who did in fact overwhelm himwith her emotional response, and it FREAKED himout.He could have just said, "Hey, I am dating anotherwoman right now, and I've decided that I want toget to know her better. I think you're great, butI also feel that I want to give this othersituation a chance."Instead, he tells you NOTHING--he avoids you,stops calling, and hopes that he won't ever haveto face your criticism and judgment.It's not a particularly mature and consideratething to do, but that's the reality of how it iswith a lot of men. Not all, but definitely a lot.They don't even realize in the moment how YOU'REfeeling.all they know is that they have to do whatthey must do to avoid that confrontation theyfear.Despite this, there's reason to be hopeful thatyou can create the space for a man to be honestwith you with really no effort.And here's something else you need to know.there'sa "window of opportunity" for getting the mosthonesty right away, so you can screen out the menwho are Mr. Wrong from the start.Be sure to know when that window is open for you,and take advantage of it.WHY FIRST AND SECOND DATES ARE CRITICAL TIMES FORHONESTYThis is an interesting fact: a man will be MOSTHONEST with you when he is NOT YET emotionallyengaged or invested in your relationship yet.In other words, you can probably learn a LOT abouta man on a first or second date, when you're justgetting to know each other.This is a time when he's not so afraid to share,because he's not afraid of disappointing you(since you don't know each other well enough yet).This is when you should be listening VERY closelyto what man tells you.This is when he'll tell you things like, "I'm justlooking for something casual and fun right now. Ijust got out of a long-term relationship and notinto getting into the same situation anytimesoon."Or he might laugh and say, "I'm a lifetimebachelor. Settling down doesn't interest me in theleast."Or, he might reveal some other dark secret, "My exwas an unhappy woman. Always complaining about onething or another about me."And that's when you need to HEAR what he's saying.And take him seriously. Know what you're in for.The man you choose is the man you get.THE ATTITUDE & THE THREE MAGIC WORDS THAT INSPIREHONESTYWhen you want to inspire honesty in a man, so thatyou let him know that he is "safe" when he shareswith you, you have to have what I call the"Anything is OK" attitude.Now, this doesn't mean that anything is OK for aman to do, and that you're supposed to acceptanything he does and have no boundaries orlimitations.The attitude is more like you thinking, "Anythingis OK for you to share with me, but I know what Iwill and will not tolerate in my life, and what Iwant. But you can TELL ME anything. I can handleit."How do you communicate this attitude?Easy.With the three little words: "I'm just curious."It can go like this."Are you seeing anyone right now? I'm justcurious?""What kind of relationship are you looking for?I'm just curious.""What kind of woman do you most admire? I'm justcurious.""Where do you see yourself in the next five years?I'm just curious."Using these three words not only lets a man knowthat you'll be OK with whatever he tells you, butthat you're not needy or too aggressive, and hecan feel safe telling you just about anything.Just don't stare at him, holding your breath,waiting for his answer. That defeats the purpose -BIG TIME.Here's the deal.It's not that a man is afraid ofcertain questions. It's just that the WAY a womanasks those questions makes him feel strange.If a woman warns, "You're not seeing anyone elseright now, are you?" It almost automaticallyinvites DISHONESTY in a man.If you want to inspire sincerity in a man, youmust have the "Anything is OK" attitude and usethose 3 magic words to get the most honestresponse possible.That way, you won't waste a lot of time going ondates with "unavailable" men, men who haveskeletons in their closet, aren't over their ex,or are actually interested in a different kind ofrelationship than you are.Wouldn't you benefit from knowing exactly how to use the "anything is OK" attitude to screen out the right man from all the wrong ones? How to know if the man you're with now is really being honestwith you about where the relationship is headed?Or if he's lying?In my CD/DVD program, "Meeting The One," I explainhow to use the Anything is OK Attitude to maximizeyour success in dating and relationships.You'll learn how to screen for potential jerks byknowing what to do and say even BEFORE you agreeto meet on a first date.And in this program, I'll teach you what to do andsay to create amazing chemistry with the RIGHT MANand how to constantly be increasing the level ofATTRACTION between you. You'll learn:-- How certain phrases you speak can be a DEAL-BREAKER for a man when he hears it the first fewtimes he dates you.and how to avoid these at allcosts-- How to make a man see your VALUE by the thingsyou say or not, so that he will believe your"status" to be high and therefore will benaturally attracted to you-- How to make a man feel ATTRACTION from thefirst five minutes all the way through the firstfive dates using specific "counterintuitive"actions-- The secret to drawing a "non-committal" mancloser to you by making yourself a "challenge" in his eyes.
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