NOTE: What's your biggest frustration with men,relationships and dating?Do you find it easy to meet men, but hard to keeptheir attention and interest as soon as thingsstart to get "serious"?Are you wondering how to approach your boyfriendabout commitment, because you've been together along time now and HE isn't bringing it up on hisown?Are you worried that the man you're with willcheat on you?I actually put together a list "Top 10" questionsthat I most commonly get from women like you, whoare wondering how to get past certain "bumps" inthe road when it comes to their love lives.
I've got a fascinating story for you. Tell me if it sounds familiar... You're hanging out talking with some friends,when all of a sudden the conversation turns to acommon topic - love and relationships. And each woman at the table starts talkingabout the situation she's in and all the amazingthings about it. At first you're enjoying the stories and you'rehappy for your friends. But then it hits you... You are the only person there who ISN'T in anongoing positive relationship. Everyone else at the table has someone in theirlife who they're excited and optimistic about. Everyone else has something "real." Everyone except you. You're ALONE... and that guy who you "date",without the relationship going anywhere, well - hedoesn't cut it. So you stop for a second and think, "Maybe it's me..." "Maybe it's not all because of the way men are,but how I am. That explains why I don't have reallove in my life." As you think about this for a second, you can'thelp but feel a little lonely all of a sudden, anda small twinge of sadness wells up inside. But as these feelings start to grow, you knowinside that you deserve better, and you wish thefeeling would just go away. But it doesn't... and the last thing you wantto do is "go there" in front of your friends. Especially since they just got through tellingall of their great stories. You don't want them to know how you really feelright now... and you wish this feeling and problemwould just go away. You think to yourself: "Why does love and a relationship with a manhave to be so difficult?" "If only men weren't so difficult to be with." But then your "protective" side kicks in, andyou start fighting these feelings and tellyourself: "I don't need a man." "I'm happy with my life as it is." "I'm happy to be single and focus on myselfright now, instead of wasting my time and energyin a dead-end situation with a man." "Men are all screwed up and trouble anyway, andI don't need that in my life right now." Ahhhh... it starts to work and you calm downand regain your "cool." But somewhere deep down inside, you know whyyou felt sad - Seeing all your friends happy in their lovelives reminded you of something... For all the reasons you have to be happy, andall the ways you can convince other people (andyourself) that you're fulfilled, you REALLY DOwant something much, much better. You want a REAL CONNECTION. You want to share REAL LOVE and BE LOVED. And you wonder how long you can avoid thereality that these things are MISSING from yourlife by staying busy and taking care of otherareas of life. You know you can't go on this way forever. Something has to change. There HAS to be something better out there foryou. Or else what's it all for? But then you remember... It's been months, maybe even years, sinceyou've actually made the time and space in yourlife to meet and connect with the kind of man whocould bring great things back into your love life. And in fact, the idea of "dating" sounds like acomplete and utter NIGHTMARE. Sitting through a date listening to some bozo,who has no idea how to really connect with you,ramble on about himself, would just make you feeleven more hopeless and alone. So you've basically shut out of your life theidea of dating and going out with men for morethan friendship. But then how are you supposed to meet andconnect with a great guy? And how did EVERYONE ELSE around you manage tobecome CLOSE and COMMITTED with a good guy, whileyou're having an impossible time finding a guy whoisn't totally clueless? Do they know something you don't? Are you just UNLUCKY in love... and not meantto have a great relationship for yourself? Are they somehow more attractive than you are? Why does it have to be so difficult? And why does it have to be such a "game"?***End of story** Ok, I know I got a little "heavy" on you there,but it's for your own good. This story is basically a myth... a collectionof common situations, fears, beliefs, etc., thatwomen experience. And in case you didn't notice, a lot of whatwas going on here in the story had to do with awoman's own limiting thoughts, frustrations andnegative beliefs about men, dating andrelationships. If you identified with a few of these thoughts,fears, etc., then I want you to recognizesomething... Some women have VERY FEW of these negative andlimiting thoughts. While other women have TONS. I'm talking 10, 20, 30 and 50 times a day here. And what do you think that does for a woman? Or for you? Let's try something new today - an exercise. Take a second and imagine something for me... Picture in your mind a woman you know who'seither single or in a "troubled" relationship. Make sure you have a clear picture of her inyour mind. Now I want you to imagine her having negativethoughts and fears like the ones we've beentalking about here. In fact, I also want you to give her some ofthe fears and negative thoughts that you have. And now... concentrate on how these thoughtsmake her FEEL and ACT. See how they affect her emotions, her attitudeand even her body language. I'll give you a second to picture this clearlyin your mind... Ok, now imagine a situation comes up for heruncertain situation with the man in her life. Picture her emotions, her thoughts and how shecommunicates to the man in her life in your head. I'll give you a second to think about this andimagine it happening in your mind. ... ... I'll give you another minute. Ok, come on back. Now, I want you answer a question for me - How did all of her negative thoughts affect howshe interacted with her guy? Did they help guide her to positive andconstructive communication that brought themCLOSER together? Or did it tend to make communication with himMORE DIFFICULT and create DISTANCE? I'm sure you came up with all kinds offascinating insights and realizations, but here'swhat I want you to see here... Communicating from a place of fear andinsecurity with a man will more often createDISTANCE than it will bring you and him together. Unless the guy you're with is ALREADY an expertat communicating and dealing with these thingshimself. If only men were experts when it came to havingopen, lasting relationships and communicating inways that would bring you closer, right? Wouldn't that be nice. Well, the truth is men are RARELY experts inthese areas. And sure... a man COULD come along and be sucha wonderful and amazing guy that he would helpmake relationships and communicating easier. But if that doesn't happen, or the great guyyou do find doesn't happen to have these naturalskills and abilities (and by the way, most mendon't)... Then guess what? It's up to YOU. He's not going to make it work FOR YOU. In fact, the reality is that as you are firstbecoming close with a man, he's more likely totrigger your own fears than to help resolve them. I'm not telling you about this right now justbecause I'm trying to teach you some "mumbo jumbo"about how thoughts, energy and intention worktogether... (Which they do.) But for another simple reason - There's something you can do right now toDRAMATICALLY improve the level of connection andintimacy you have in your love life. It all starts in one place. Paying attention to HOW YOU THINK. On a basic level, your own patterns of THINKINGand FEELING lead to the ACTIONS you take and theBEHAVIOR you display. And guess what can create a "negative filter"on your THINKING and FEELINGS? FEAR. And if you're finding that your actions andbehaviors aren't "naturally" attracting good menand creating healthy long-term relationships...then you've got something to look at right now - Your own thoughts and emotions, and your ownfears. And, of course, you could worry about HISISSUES too, but let's save working on him forlater when you're up to speed on all this foryourself.GETTING PAST FEAR, "CONNECTING" ON A DEEP LEVEL,AND MAKING MEN ADDICTED TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP... Ok, let's get to some real ANSWERS here. What do you DO when you have negative, fearful,limiting thoughts and situations going on in yourmind that are affecting your love life? Well, I'm not going to tell you that all womenwho are single or in "dead-end" relationships arein that place in their life JUST BECAUSE theythink and feel in "fear-based" and "self-limiting"ways. But do the math. What kind of women do you think men "naturally"gravitate towards? What kind of women do you think men"instinctively" feel good when they're around,even if they don't know why? What kind of women do you think men understand,on a subconscious level and make great long-termpartners? Right again. Women who are in CONTROL of their own fears andemotions when it comes to men, dating andrelationships. Why? It's NOT because feelings and emotions arethemselves bad... Feelings and emotions are probably the mostbeautiful part of what makes us human and allowsus to experience the world in a deep andmeaningful way. But, what I'm talking about here is NEGATIVEfeelings. Because negative feelings, more often than not,lead to NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES. And women who are in CONTROL of their EMOTIONALEXPERIENCES and who have a handle on their ownemotional state, know how to do something thatother women can't and will never be able tofake... They know how to consistently create morePOSITIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES with men. On one level, it really is that simple. In practice, it's much harder.
So let's get on now to ATTRACTION. The truth is that men are attracted to onewoman and not another largely because of the waythat one woman makes them FEEL. And NOT because of what logically soundqualities each person and the relationship has. ATTRACTION and CONNECTION have their own"logic." I'll say it again so you can really hear itthis time - A man is attracted to a woman and wants to bewith her, and only her, because of the way heFEELS when he's around her. And not for any other reason. Not even if the women is the most loving,caring, sweet, generous, and intelligent woman inthe world. I'm even going to "translate" this for you soyou're sure to start seeing it more clearly - Translation: The emotional experiences that aman has when he's around a woman are the singlemost powerful reasons why he either wants a long-term relationship, or doesn't. And to make this even more clear, let me tellyou what this DOESN'T mean... It DOESN'T mean that a man wants to be with awoman because he VALUES a relationship and havingtrue love in his life. Or that a woman can be so good to a man and doso many loving and generous things for him that herecognizes the LOGICAL value of staying with herand makes the "right" decision. Feelings and emotions have their own logic,which has NOTHING to do with what makes "sense" orwhat is "fair." And the sooner you accept this as true aboutmen, the easier EVERYTHING in your love life andrelationship will become.CREATING A DEEP LEVEL OF "EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION"THAT WILL LEAD TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP So how do you make a man FEEL when he's aroundyou? What are the conscious and subconsciousemotional reactions and responses he's likely tobe having with you, based on your emotions andyour behavior? Take a minute and think about it. ... ... Here's the bottom line: A woman who can communicate to a man on adeeper level that she's AWARE and IN CONTROL ofher own experience and "emotional" state will makea man feel INTENSE ATTRACTION for her on that sameemotional level. She's an "emotionally attractive" woman, whichcan tell a man all kinds of things about herBEYOND the PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and interest hemight have. On the other hand... Women who DON'T have a handle on these thingshave quite a different effect on men - These women can still usually make men feelPHYSICAL ATTRACTION... but they often set off allkinds of conscious and subconscious "warningsigns" in a man's mind. Signals that then become FEELINGS and EMOTIONSinside the man that tell him to RUN. And under no circumstance commit himself andattach his emotional experience to hers. Here's the strangest part about women who sendoff these "warning signals" to men... Most women do this largely BY ACCIDENT. That's right. Lots of women actually triggernegative responses inside a man's mind while doingthings they think are FOR THE GOOD of therelationship. How's that for COUNTERPRODUCTIVE? And hey... I know it might bother you to hearsome of what I'm saying. And that you probablyhave been more caring and generous with yourthoughts and emotions in your past situations withmen than they were with you. I get that. But someone needs to tell you how men reallyand truly think when it comes to women andrelationships. And of course men have their own specializedset of "baggage" and fears too. But let me ask you... What do you know, FROM EXPERIENCE, will happenif a man doesn't deal with his own fears aboutwomen and relationships? DISASTER. I'm talking withdrawal, break-ups, cheating,lying, etc. The list goes on. But if a guy takes the time and develops the"emotional maturity" to think about the negativeand limiting fears HE HAS about women andrelationships... And finds a healthy level of AWARENESS andCONTROL around these... Then this is the kind of guy that women will"naturally" be drawn to and enjoy being with. Your first step to creating a situation with aman where you BOTH feel the level of connectionthat will create and support a lastingrelationship is to accept that MEN DON'T MAKESENSE. Why? Because remember, our EMOTIONS don't follow alogical or "rational" path. If you're interested in learning more aboutwhat I call "Emotional Attraction" - which is thekind of attraction and desire in a man that goesBEYOND PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, then I'd suggest yougo check out my "Natural & Lasting Attraction"CD/DVD program. This program is the world's first completeguide and reference on how to create both thatinitial "connection" and LASTING LONG-TERMATTRACTION... While showing you how to deal with all of thecommon relationship-ending obstacles you'll runinto with men, and within yourself, along the way. Inside this 7-hour program, I cover everythingfrom the psychological foundations of how and whya man becomes connected and attracted to a womanfor a lasting relationship... To exactly what to do in the frustratingsituation where you start getting closer and moreconnected with a man, but then he starts towithdraw and act MORE DISTANT as time goes on. By the way, the material in this program is allNEW MATERIAL that wasn't covered in my eBook, ifyou've already read it. But let me ask you... Wouldn't it be great to know the specificemotional and verbal "strategies" of women whoseem to effortlessly and "naturally" attract men?
