I'm going to straight out say that I think you
would have heard all these tips at some time in your
life.
However, the fact is, these are fundamental to
increasing your personal magnetism and improving
your relationships.
Athletes know that fundamentals of their sport are
not only what most people consider "the basics", but
they also know that fundamentals are often more
powerful than "advanced tricks, tips, and
techniques."
Fundamentals can produce exponential effects while
advanced techniques give you a little extra edge over
others and the situation.
There are people out there trying to learn the
advanced skills and tactics, while simply learning
the fundamentals and having them as an integral part
of their living is what will be more beneficial to
the person.
I'm not just talking about this from a
communication standpoint. Think about how it applies
to sports, wealth, happiness, eating, and health.
The fundamentals of your personal magnetism and
relationships need to constantly be revisited,
practiced, and maintained because I bet that you're
either not doing them at all or doing them that well.
People may want advanced communication skills, but
often, all they need are the fundamentals.
Here are 3 powerful fundamentals to improve your
relationships (Beware of that! Relationships! These
are communication skills that are just as useful - if
not more useful - with your partner and those close
to you. Keep that in mind as your read the principles
below.)
1. Be Interested In People
"I've heard that one before" I hear you say. Good.
However, are you ACTUALLY interested in people
instead of thinking you "know it"?
The next time you have a conversation with someone,
be interested in them. Ask questions, empathize, get
excited with them.
This isn't just a social skill, it's a fundamental
relationship skill. Get interested in your partner's
life. Get interested in your coworkers hobbies. Get
interested in your child's sport.
By becoming interested, you'll become interesting.
You'll also provide a fundamental need to the
person you are showing interested in. That need is
the need to be listened to, admired, and understood.
2. Make People Feel Important
Admire other's accomplishments, compliment them,
and do other things to make them feel important.
Most people do this poorly in a manipulative manner
that lacks healthy intent or in a manner that isn't
believable (think of a parent who tells their child
they are the "smartest looking in their school").
In my "Communication Secrets of Making People Like
You", I discuss this in depth. Manipulative praise
often derives from trying to improve the person's
confidence, self-esteem, and in an effort to provide
emotional security.
Successfully making a person feel important is not
just stroking the person's ego, but it is also shows
them that you acknowledge their efforts. It shows
that you care.
3. Be Comfortable With Yourself
Being comfortable with yourself has several
elements. It includes, but not limited to, being able
to laugh at yourself, having good self-esteem and
confidence, having composure, and other things that
communicate inner peace.
Nothing is so disturbing to a relationship as
someone who is so disturbed within oneself.
The person can be aggressive towards others,
frustrated, and generally uncomfortable with
onself.
Inner discomfort destroys outer comfort.
A lot of outer problems originate from a core, in
our case with regards to relationships and personal
magnetism, your mind.
People want "relationship fixes" while what they
actually need is a "mind fix."
In my "Communication Secrets of Making People Like
You" program, I call this the "Window Principle."
What you experience inside of yourself infects others
in more ways than one. Mastering this principle can
be quite complex, but I've set out a simple way you
can use this principle in the program.
How your partner, children, and friends deal with
you, is often how you deal with yourself.
If you have frustration within, people will
probably be frustrated with you.
If you're unhappy within, people will probably be
unhappy around you.
Comfort within gets transferred to others being
comfortable around you. Your partner and others will
want to be around you and experience a better
relationship with you, if you're comfortable.
Being able to laugh at yourself (don't do it
frequently otherwise you'll look more like a
goofball or a clown) is one-way of communicating
inner comfort.
Overall, the three principles (1. Be Interested In
People 2. Make People Feel Important 3. Be
Comfortable With Yourself) is similar to the ACE
approach:
- Appreciate
- Connect
- Elevate
If you haven't realized it yet, there are several
powerful sentences or "quotes" throughout this
newsletter that you may wish to copy, paste, and
store for future reference.
Most of these principles are applied to a social
context. That is, they relate to popularity,
conversation skills, and being a more social person.
However, I encourage you to see the principle's
application in your personal relationships.
In my "Communication Secrets of Making People Like
You" program, the same holds true. While the many
powerful communication secrets are applicable to
conversations and social skills to improve your fun,
personality, and life, they are more vitally
important for great relationships with your partner,
children, and coworkers.
would have heard all these tips at some time in your
life.
However, the fact is, these are fundamental to
increasing your personal magnetism and improving
your relationships.
Athletes know that fundamentals of their sport are
not only what most people consider "the basics", but
they also know that fundamentals are often more
powerful than "advanced tricks, tips, and
techniques."
Fundamentals can produce exponential effects while
advanced techniques give you a little extra edge over
others and the situation.
There are people out there trying to learn the
advanced skills and tactics, while simply learning
the fundamentals and having them as an integral part
of their living is what will be more beneficial to
the person.
I'm not just talking about this from a
communication standpoint. Think about how it applies
to sports, wealth, happiness, eating, and health.
The fundamentals of your personal magnetism and
relationships need to constantly be revisited,
practiced, and maintained because I bet that you're
either not doing them at all or doing them that well.
People may want advanced communication skills, but
often, all they need are the fundamentals.
Here are 3 powerful fundamentals to improve your
relationships (Beware of that! Relationships! These
are communication skills that are just as useful - if
not more useful - with your partner and those close
to you. Keep that in mind as your read the principles
below.)
1. Be Interested In People
"I've heard that one before" I hear you say. Good.
However, are you ACTUALLY interested in people
instead of thinking you "know it"?
The next time you have a conversation with someone,
be interested in them. Ask questions, empathize, get
excited with them.
This isn't just a social skill, it's a fundamental
relationship skill. Get interested in your partner's
life. Get interested in your coworkers hobbies. Get
interested in your child's sport.
By becoming interested, you'll become interesting.
You'll also provide a fundamental need to the
person you are showing interested in. That need is
the need to be listened to, admired, and understood.
2. Make People Feel Important
Admire other's accomplishments, compliment them,
and do other things to make them feel important.
Most people do this poorly in a manipulative manner
that lacks healthy intent or in a manner that isn't
believable (think of a parent who tells their child
they are the "smartest looking in their school").
In my "Communication Secrets of Making People Like
You", I discuss this in depth. Manipulative praise
often derives from trying to improve the person's
confidence, self-esteem, and in an effort to provide
emotional security.
Successfully making a person feel important is not
just stroking the person's ego, but it is also shows
them that you acknowledge their efforts. It shows
that you care.
3. Be Comfortable With Yourself
Being comfortable with yourself has several
elements. It includes, but not limited to, being able
to laugh at yourself, having good self-esteem and
confidence, having composure, and other things that
communicate inner peace.
Nothing is so disturbing to a relationship as
someone who is so disturbed within oneself.
The person can be aggressive towards others,
frustrated, and generally uncomfortable with
onself.
Inner discomfort destroys outer comfort.
A lot of outer problems originate from a core, in
our case with regards to relationships and personal
magnetism, your mind.
People want "relationship fixes" while what they
actually need is a "mind fix."
In my "Communication Secrets of Making People Like
You" program, I call this the "Window Principle."
What you experience inside of yourself infects others
in more ways than one. Mastering this principle can
be quite complex, but I've set out a simple way you
can use this principle in the program.
How your partner, children, and friends deal with
you, is often how you deal with yourself.
If you have frustration within, people will
probably be frustrated with you.
If you're unhappy within, people will probably be
unhappy around you.
Comfort within gets transferred to others being
comfortable around you. Your partner and others will
want to be around you and experience a better
relationship with you, if you're comfortable.
Being able to laugh at yourself (don't do it
frequently otherwise you'll look more like a
goofball or a clown) is one-way of communicating
inner comfort.
Overall, the three principles (1. Be Interested In
People 2. Make People Feel Important 3. Be
Comfortable With Yourself) is similar to the ACE
approach:
- Appreciate
- Connect
- Elevate
If you haven't realized it yet, there are several
powerful sentences or "quotes" throughout this
newsletter that you may wish to copy, paste, and
store for future reference.
Most of these principles are applied to a social
context. That is, they relate to popularity,
conversation skills, and being a more social person.
However, I encourage you to see the principle's
application in your personal relationships.
In my "Communication Secrets of Making People Like
You" program, the same holds true. While the many
powerful communication secrets are applicable to
conversations and social skills to improve your fun,
personality, and life, they are more vitally
important for great relationships with your partner,
children, and coworkers.
1 komentar:
Selamat dah launching. Semoga banyak manfaat bagi yang lainnya. Salut buat Nisa dech. Aku suka gaya tulisannya bisa dibuat untuk mahasiswa yg kul di jur inggris.
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