5 Tips to Increase Your Power with People

Why is power important to you?

Regardless of who you are or how ethical you think
you are, having more power with people will benefit
you under one condition.
You have the intention of creating win-win
situations. Yes, power can be misused, but those who
misuse their power lose their power.
Once you've got the intention of creating win-win
situations, then you can begin increasing your power
with people and learn to keep it.
Having power with people empowers you to make
changes. It gives you the skills to not be
manipulated by others. It increases your
attractiveness. And yes, it wins you friends.
Try these 5 tips for yourself and you'll
see how having more power benefits your life:
#1 Avoid overly emotional responses. People who
become overly emotional in situations, no matter the
situation's emotional intensity, are less powerful.
When someone becomes emotional towards you, do not
react to their sub-standard behavior. Emotionally
hold your ground and you will increase your power,
while making other people see the emotionally-
respondent person as inferior and out of control.
Those who can control their emotional responses are
in control of the conversation and their life. Humans
are attracted to composure and poise.
#2 Planning. Plan as much as you can for as long as
you can. People who plan are prepared for life's
rocky roads which enables those people to effortlessly
get through their problems. They are in control
instead of being controlled.
Plan in advance what you want to talk about from
the beginning to end and how you will talk about it.
You don't need to stick to your plan, but use it as
a guideline. Planning will remove uncertainty and
fear while reducing failure.
#3 Seek attention. Don't seek attention in a needy
unconfident manner. Rather, learn to attract
attention such that you are on people's minds. For
businesses, this means frequent and effective
marketing.
For you, it means wearing uniquely fashionable
clothing with a fabulous posture. Get a hair-cut that
other people like and which makes you feel good. Wear
something unique like a necklace, ring, or a patch of
white coloring in your hair.
Create a physical self-image different to others
that you wholely enjoy. Make yourself standout in a
mature way and you will be on people's minds. People
will come to you.
#4 Avoid commitment. This particular rule applies
to the situation when you have a decision between
two other parties. Does it always apply to all
situations? Of course not. The fourth rule is to be
used in situations where your lack of commitment is
more beneficial than committing to one party.
Sometimes two people in conflict will try to pull
you into their side of the argument. Additionally,
being overly committed to a person too early on in a
relationship can signal neediness and a lack of power
and freedom, all unattractive qualities.
People who commit communicate their intentions. By
being on two or more sides, instead of commiting to
one, all parties seek your attention allowing you to
do what you want to them both. You can manipulate
them both to your benefit if that is your choice.
When you avoid commitment, people are given hope
that you will commit to them. They will become
frustrated, but will remain interested in you because
of their hope in swaying you to their side.
#5 Becareful of dangerous enemies. Before you make
enemies with someone by saying or doing something
harsh, know who you are dealing with. Annoy the wrong
person and they may do all that is within their power
to hurt you and your reputation.
Some people can have crazy amounts of resentment so
that when you annoy them, you're triggering a nuclear
weapon of anger and resentment that sets off to
destroy your power and image.
I hope you enjoyed these tips and please think of
how you can apply each tip to the many different
aspects of your life. Think of how they can be
applied to business, social, dating, family, etc.